I am a people watcher and by people watcher, I mean I am a behavior watcher. I, like many others, spend too much time on social media observing the actions and behaviors of others by what they post. One thing I have observed over and again is some people live life to the fullest, while others can't seem to catch a break. This has led to some self-inquiry, often asking myself, why is it that some people exude gratitude and joy, while others seem to have a dark cloud hovering over their heads? Why is it that some people have luck while others just can't catch a break? How does being grateful correlate with joy, success, and overall life satisfaction? How do some people seem to magically manifest all they desire? I've done some research into this. Read on to discover the secret of a joyous future and how to manifest exactly what you desire. Learn what it takes to live a wholehearted life.
I recently read a couple books by one of my favorite authors, Dr. Brene Brown, Daring Greatly and The Gifts of Imperfection. Brown, who is a shame researcher, has ten guideposts she discusses in The Gifts of Imperfection. One of the guideposts is Cultivating Gratitude and Joy. After reading these books and turning my daily practice to one of gratitude, I believe, wholeheartedly, that success and joy on our journey is greatly dependent on the gratitude we recognize and celebrate in our life today. Brown states “happiness is tied to circumstance and joy is tied to spirit and gratitude.” That is right, being grateful on a daily basis changes our energy, which allows us to see the positive. It allows us to feel joy. Positive energy directs our paths. People who are grateful learn to manifest the path they want to take and in turn, those people tend to be more successful, resilient, and joyous. Follow these simple practices, and you too, will manifest the future you desire.
1. Self-Acceptance: In Daring Greatly, Dr. Brown stresses the importance of self-acceptance. Spend time daily reminding yourself that you are enough. You are worthy of anything this life has to offer; especially that you are worthy to give and receive love. Look in the mirror and tell yourself you are worthy. Trust yourself. Have compassion on yourself. Give yourself a daily bear hug. Take time to breathe in the joy and love you are offering to yourself. Listen to what you heart tells you.
2. Practice Gratitude Daily: Practicing gratitude on a daily basis makes us more joyful. Dr. Brown also discusses that her research in gratitude and joy, she discovered those who are joyful practice gratitude on a daily basis. She states, "practicing gratitude invites joy into our lives." Joyful people are those who practice gratitude, not the reverse. Practicing gratitude, she states, needs to be intentional, such as setting reminders to say something out loud you are grateful for, keeping a gratitude journal, or making it a practice to share what you are grateful for during family dinners. When we are intentionally grateful, we become more resilient when negative thinks happen. I made a commitment to intentional gratitude practice writing in a journal. I also put a reminder on my calendar each Tuesday, (Gratituesday) as a time to reflect on all that I am grateful for from the past week. I now look forward to "Gratituesday."
3. Mindfulness, Positivity, and Meditation: Make it a practice to recognize negative, fearful thoughts. Become mindful of these thoughts and allow them to drift away while turning your thoughts to your breath and the present moment. Take 3-5 deep belly breaths. Once your focus is off of the negative energy, turn to gratitude. Ask yourself what are you grateful for in this moment? As you breathe deeply in the moment, focusing on your breath, listen to the answer. Continue asking yourself what you are grateful for and continue listening until your negative and fearful thoughts morph into those of gratitude and joy. If you are struggling to take focus off of the negativity in your life, try putting a positive spin on it. Ask yourself what is the universe trying to teach you in this moment? Take a few minutes to meditate on the answer.
Make it a practice to meditate daily. Take five minutes to breathe deeply, focusing on your breath. During this time meditate on what you are grateful for. After the session, write down what comes to you in a journal.
4. Seek Gratitude in Challenging Circumstances: It is easy to seek gratitude when life is great; but what you experience challenge after challenge? How do you find gratitude in the midst of grief? This challenges is actually an opportunity to practice gratitude. I recently overheard a phone conversation between my husband and one of his friends. His friend inquired about a business we opened and later sold a few years ago. My husband's response was, "we lost our asses." I quietly reminded him that it was a time we learned great lessons. He then corrected his answer and said, "we learned running a full-time business may not be in our wheelhouse but in the end, we offered a great service to the community that is still there today. For that, I am grateful" Wow! I beamed with pride and joy at seeing how quickly we can manifest a positive, even grateful, perspective of our past, present, and future. We become even more empowered when we learn to find the blessing, learning, or meaning in life's challenges. Next time you are sitting in traffic make it an opportunity to practice gratitude. As you feel your body become tense and impatient, recognize the feeling and turn to gratitude. Take some deep belly breaths and focus. Ask yourself, what are you grateful for. When you practice gratitude during stressful times, you are reprogramming your brain to seek gratitude in all situations.
4. Keep a Gratitude Journal: Set your alarm earlier than you need to wake up to spend time manifesting what you desire for the day. Write down what you are grateful for and what you need to make the day fantastic. At the end of the day, return to your journal to reflect on how your day went. What can you celebrate?
5. Celebrate Joy: Take time to recognize joy. Turn that recognition to a celebration. Share your joy with others.
6. Be Thankful: Take time to tell others you are thankful for them. Write a note to somebody expressing your appreciation. Saying thank you and expressing appreciation is another way of practicing gratitude.
8. Express Your Gratitude: Step out of your comfort zone and freely express your gratitude to others. Your expression of gratitude may in fact be just what that person needs. Your expression of gratitude will bless them.
9. Partner Up: Find a partner who is also practicing gratitude. Connect on a regular basis and share your gratitude with one another. Seek friendships and partners who are positive and have similar values. Gratitude and positivity is contagious.
10. Volunteer: A simple act of service not only leaves you feeling better, it can change your perspective. Volunteering leaves us feeling we are contributing to a greater good, while allowing us to realize all we have to be grateful for. When my, now adult children, were younger, we had a few opportunities to volunteer in Mexico. We traveled to Mexico with a local church to build small, a-frame (shed size) houses in a village. In addition to giving to a greater cause, my kids, then ages 8, 11, and 13 this experience led to discussions about all they had to be thankful and grateful for. We often felt thankful and happy for weeks after we returned from our trip.
If you are having challenges with manifesting the future you desire or if you are not fully living your life's purpose, a Life Coach might be the answer.
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