The inspiration for this challenge is from a book I read about a year ago, The Magic of Thinking Big, by David J. Schwartz. This self-help/sales book is full of practical ideas on how changing the way you think can be magical. In chapter 6 of the book, "You are what you think you are," Dr. Schwartz, discusses the power of thinking and believing you are important. He suggests giving yourself a pep talk several times a day. In this pep talk, you should "practice up-lifting self-praise." When I initially read this chapter, I felt uncomfortable. My mind went to the times in my life, especially as a child, that I publicly complimented myself. These thoughts quickly turn to the scolding that came next when elders in my life shamed me for being anything from too prideful to downright arrogant. Many of us are not raised to be proud of ourselves. Unfortunately, many of us, especially women are taught to be meek, quiet, mild, and to NEVER, EVER brag or boast. For me this led to thinking any compliment whether is public or self talk is not okay. What is even more fascinating, is it is often socially acceptable to tear ourselves down. When is the last time you heard someone look in the mirror and publicly announce, "I am hot!"? Yeah, I didn't think so? When was the last time you were hanging out with your friends and one said, "Oh geez, I am so fat!" or "I am just not good at X?" Yea, I thought so. It is as if positive public or private self-talk is off limits. I would like to take Dr. Schwartz's lead and ask you to take some time this week to practice positive self-talk. I, too, need to recommit myself to this practice. When I read The Magic of Thinking Big, after the initial shock and feeling uncomfortable, I felt inspired to take action. Dr. Schwartz, challenged me and his readers to build a "sell-yourself-to-yourself" commercial. He suggests we should remind ourselves at every opportunity that we are a first-class person. We are very important people with important jobs.
Dr. Schwartz recommends after creating your commercial, you should practice it by talking to yourself, being very direct, practicing it out loud, repeating it forcefully, reading it silently several times per day, and keeping it handy at all times to use it.
With some vulnerability I am sharing my commercial here. A little background about me before I proceed. I am a work in progress and still experience times I struggle with self-esteem and self-acceptance. I have to work actively to slay self-doubt and negative self-talk. As a rape surviving, high-school drop-out, teen mom, I still struggle to love myself. I struggle with body dysmorphic issues. I struggle with public speaking. I replay in my head over and again conversations I have that didn't go well (at least in my mind). When I divorced my first-husband 18-years-ago, the first thing I did was enroll in college. Although becoming educated was a positive path towards increasing my self-worth, it was not enough.
After 11 years of both teaching and serving as a school administrator, I decided to change careers. I moved into sales. One of the reasons I read The Magic of Thinking Big is because I was really struggling to come to terms with my new career path. The thought of being a "salesperson" felt ugly. I lacked the confidence necessary to ask for the sale or to even prospect effectively for that matter.
I created this commercial about a year ago and I am committing myself to practice it several times a day.
I am First-Class
Meet Tricia; a really important person who has an important career.
I am a Big thinker so I think big. I think big about everything. I am a problem solver. I provide an extravagant lifestyle for my family. I believe in happiness, progress, and prosperity. I deserve to be wealthy, so I only think that way. I have the ability to win over others because I am charming, Intelligent, knowledgeable, resourceful, educated, sincere, and eager to help others. I am a natural leader and those around me took to me for guidance. I am lucky and have positive energy. I am good at anything I put my mind to. I care deeply others, especially my family and the kids served in my territory. This is why I have been highly successful. I have what it takes to win. Go forward Tricia. Generate two-million dollars in revenue this year.
When are you going to start your commercial?
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